This blog is for all of those who like me are beginners in this horribly long grief process and face the challenge of trying to be gentle with ourselves while living in this stupidly harsh warrior culture that ignores the grief process entirely. Death is messy and unsexy. Americans don’t like it. So we have been taught zero coping skills to deal with it.
This blog is to dispel all of that bullshit and share with you the few things I’ve learned about grief that no one ever told me. Little gems like — You’re going to feel like shit for awhile. And then you’re going to feel like crap for bit longer. And then, when you think things should start looking up, inside your heart will be a big o’ pile of poo.
In other words, be patient. Accept your grief. Embrace it. Make it a bath. You’re going to be together for a long time, you crazy kids. And through your bond, you will eventually feel grieftastic. Just you wait and see! (Note: I am still waiting.)
Just a little background on me…
I’m a professional journalist and award-winning author. My work has appeared in Newsweek, Premiere, Match.com, Back Stage, The Hollywood Reporter, and numerous other publications.
I moved home in 2009 to take care of my mother who was dying of Stage IV breast cancer. From there, I looked after my grieving grandfather and father before moving back to Los Angeles to rebuild my life a year later. That’s when my grief process truly began. – Nicole Kristal